I think I'm getting really tired of the phrase "If you're not X you just wouldn't understand." There's part of me that understands the reasoning behind it; not all experiences translate from one person to another. You really do need to sometimes be there in order to fully understand the situation, and without that personal experience it is hard to really understand the situation. In a lot of ways it is an unassailable argument.
However, as ego-based beings we tend to forget that we may not have all of the facts, and that some details may be missing from the mix. We only have access to our experience and the knowledge that we have gathered. We forget that we don't have access to the full picture, and sometimes we need to remember that. There are any number of different aspects of which we may not be aware of that if we were it would make a vast difference in how we see the situation.
Because we tend to see our experiences as the important ones, we only count as important those that have had the same experiences. We sometimes forget that others have had some sort of analogous experience, and that those experiences are just as valid, just as important, as ours. However, because they dealt with situation at the heart of the experiences differently than we did it is easy to discount those experiences as irrelevant to ours, especially when their solution was far different from ours.
You usually see this in regards to those that feel persecuted. Not everyone is persecuted in the same way, and we need to remember that not all forms of persecution are obvious. But we need to stop and realize that there is ore than enough persecution to go around, and that we all subject to some form of persecution. It's easy to point out women being treated as second-class citizens or blacks being singled out for police harassment, but it's harder to see nerds being punished by their peers for good grades or even athletes being ignored for their mental skills. It's easy to forget that we've all been persecuted for something at some time, and that creates a common bond. We should draw on that similar background in order to do something about persecution rather than finding a way to keep us divided. We just need to realize that our experiences should pull us together rather than split us apart, and until we do that we are effectively persecuting ourselves.
However, as ego-based beings we tend to forget that we may not have all of the facts, and that some details may be missing from the mix. We only have access to our experience and the knowledge that we have gathered. We forget that we don't have access to the full picture, and sometimes we need to remember that. There are any number of different aspects of which we may not be aware of that if we were it would make a vast difference in how we see the situation.
Because we tend to see our experiences as the important ones, we only count as important those that have had the same experiences. We sometimes forget that others have had some sort of analogous experience, and that those experiences are just as valid, just as important, as ours. However, because they dealt with situation at the heart of the experiences differently than we did it is easy to discount those experiences as irrelevant to ours, especially when their solution was far different from ours.
You usually see this in regards to those that feel persecuted. Not everyone is persecuted in the same way, and we need to remember that not all forms of persecution are obvious. But we need to stop and realize that there is ore than enough persecution to go around, and that we all subject to some form of persecution. It's easy to point out women being treated as second-class citizens or blacks being singled out for police harassment, but it's harder to see nerds being punished by their peers for good grades or even athletes being ignored for their mental skills. It's easy to forget that we've all been persecuted for something at some time, and that creates a common bond. We should draw on that similar background in order to do something about persecution rather than finding a way to keep us divided. We just need to realize that our experiences should pull us together rather than split us apart, and until we do that we are effectively persecuting ourselves.